Honestly, I'm having a hard time figuring out the lesson here. I occasionally do random nice things for people. I just do it, I don't expect anything in return. Most of the time, people say thank you and life goes on. But sometimes, it becomes a springboard for people to try to get more. And it pisses me off. They act like I just handed them a menu of items for them to pick and choose from. Now I regret giving anything at all to them and I have to figure out how to deal with it. Because all I want to do is tell them where to get off. Should I not give what I was planning to give? Should I just tell them their behavior sucks? I mean I'm obviously not giving any more than was promised by me, but now I regret giving anything at all. And I'm right back into "I hate people" mode which is a lot of work for me to get out of.
So what's the lesson? Stop giving? Stop being nice? Wait for people to earn it? Make people prove themselves to me before I honor them with anything at all? Crap, that pisses me off even more. Now I'm in a cycle that I can't get out of. Pissed off at myself for being nice and pissed off at others because I can't be nice anymore. Now I'm one of those angry, mean, non-giving people I hate.
Fantastic.
1 comment:
First, I have to say that I love your work. I am one of your fans on Model Mayhem (Persequi) and came across your blog. Second, believe me, being nice in the Washington DC area is an invitation to get hurt. I moved here from Arizona and have been myself for the last 8 years. However, it seems that people take my niceness as two different things. One is to be taken advantage of (I have helped people move and never heard from them again) or that my niceness is a precursor for having something to hide. But what can I do? Well, beside vent, hope that there are people out there that do appreciate manners and the occasional good will to all human beings. I say this. Know that there are other good people out there, know that there are people who appreciate the work that you do. Know that people do appreciate the hard work that you put into your projects. I wish you the best and who knows, maybe someday we will meet. I would love to see how you set things up to get the shots that you do. Take care and good luck!!! Sorry for the late response.
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